It really only makes sense that I wrap up this mini-project about pushing my own personal boundaries by interviewing the person in my life whose always pushing me to be more in the moment, try new things and lighten up. I’m not going to get too lovey-dovey about it, but I will note that Logan is truly the ying to my yang.
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I started today in a full-blown argument at 6am. Despite escalating and then recovering in less than a half hour, not a good start to the day.
I’ve been trying to be good at loving my neighbor as myself. Not literally, because both of my actually neighbors are “snow-birds” and have not yet landed after their summer vacations. This does include my office neighbor, though. Our cubicles are connected by a 3 foot wall, and sometimes it feels like he’s constantly looking over my shoulder and talking down to me. Yesterday I said something sarcastic (my go-to gut reaction when I feel threatened) and he said something joking, that I found to be tacky and mean. I did rant and rave for a little bit, but then I took a walk, and came back and offered him a gift–a t-shirt I got for (trying) to donate blood.
I’m not the best at calling people, but this week I’ve been really making sure to write notes of affection, and call up/answer the phone for the people I miss. I’ve also made new friends this week by opening my doors (literally and mentally). Brent, a 23-year-old guy who quit his job and decided to travel by bike for a year, stayed at my house Friday night through Couch-surfers. Then, people came over to the house on Saturday for a friend’s birthday to go out on the boat. I had so much fun doing that, I invited Logan’s work friend and his girlfriend over for dinner “anytime”. Logan decided that we should redeem that offer on Tuesday, so we cooked up some fajitas (she’s gluten-free too). What was great about inviting these people into my home, was really listening to everyone’s stories and jokes. It’s a lot easier to appreciate people and stay in the moment when you’re not always trying to put in your 2 cents.
Charity. I tried giving blood, but after sticking me repeatedly in both arms, the two very large men declared me “too much of a dainty flower”. They sent me on my way with a t-shirt, some apple juice and a “better luck next time”. I was trying to figure out what I’d like to be a part of. I’ve been trying to get involved in an “anti-bullying” charity, but no one will respond to my emails/call. Then I thought about it, and decided Big Brothers Big Sisters might be the place for me. I have my “very thorough” meeting on Monday. They said they might have me going in to schools and reading/hanging out with kids, which would be cool. I’ll let you know if they like me.
Did anyone do anything for International Day of Peace yesterday? All over the world they had “flash mediation mobs”, including about 150 people in Austin, who then did a “sound bath” or the refraining of one word/chant. That would be pretty cool to have seen. You can check out more information about it here.
The story goes that a 3rd grader named Linh sat with a 2nd grader (me) and a 1st grader (my friend) on the bus. Years later we recount the story of how cool we thought we were having someone older grace us with their presence, but in Linh’s version she just didn’t have any friends to sit with. That’s Linh though, she never dwells in any negativity, she makes herself busy with something else and moves on. Not only that, but she rarely let’s me wallow in my self-negativity either. After a particularly hard break-up, she (super-woman-like) busted in to my parents home and peeled me off my place in front of the TV. Then she set up an obstacle course complete with egg balancing and twirling around a baseball bat. By the end of the day we couldn’t stop laughing. Linh’s friendship has always been the main conqueror of my self-pity, so I thought for sure I’d need to interview her.
EF (Me): How do you keep an optimistic attitude?
LT (Linh Tran): I always ask myself, how important is this right now and try to see things in a larger perspective rather than just my own.
LT: Being involved, staying busy.
LT: Me time. Regrouping and re-focusing on what is important like family, work, friends, my faith.
LT: Being away from the people I love.
LT: Sarcasm works wonders.
LT: Every time someone tells me they love me and I know they meant it.
LT: People choose to make themselves happy or unhappy, it takes a conscious effort to tell yourself you are happy or not.
LT: Not saying how I feel when it matters the most.
LT:Spaghetti with meat sauce.
LT: Covering for someone who committed a crime and I believed they had a purpose here and was truly a good person.
LT:You will be challenged, things will be tough, but you will be successful and you will be happy in your own shoes.
LT: Joe Mauer.
LT: To be it all; a career woman, a wife, a mom, but to be good at all three.
LT: You can do whatever you set your heart to, and I believe in you.