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Whenever I spend too much time “partying” I have a sever down-swings. First I obsessively clean and work, then I sleep, then I require an excessive amount of hugs and reassurance. I’m currently in sleep stage.

This project is partially about self acceptance, and in the following year I will almost certainty:

-Stay awake at night with a rushing mind

-Try to over justify my emotions

-Do something people have advised me not to do

-Disappoint my parents

-Be insulted by a stranger and care deeply

-Be unkind to a stranger

-Doubt my purpose in this world

-Get headaches, mosquito bites, bruises and colds

-Allow the laundry to pile up

-Agree to something I don’t want to do out of perceived social obligation

-Complain it’s too hot or too cold

-Act needy or desperate and feel embarrassed

But I will be OK.

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Featured: Ross Femrite

Recently I was with a couple of friends who were ordering diet pills online that were advertised for “the person who doesn’t have extra time to exercise”. This made me think of how my brother would take the situation. See, my brother is going to grad school, works as a bartender, has an active social life, plays rugby, and does triathlon. Because he has a work hard/play hard attitude and a desire to never cut corners, I know he would never be online buying a magical solution. So, of course I needed to interview him.

(EF): What’s your motivation for working out?

(RF): I always have goals that I am striving to reach to keep me motivated.  Right now I am getting ready for Crossfit games [in February].  Then, my goal will be to break the five-hour mark for the half Ironman.  After that  I need to get ready for Fall rugby season.  This always gives me something to work toward.

(EF): Why is it important to stay active?

(RF): You are only given one body, so why not take care of it?  There are a million studies out there showing how much activity helps you in all aspects of your life.  I really think if you had to choose 1 thing to improve your overall health,  activity should be the #1 choice.

(EF): What’s in that huge jug of powder you always have?

(RF): It is protein, the building blocks of your muscles.  I aim for about 200g of protein per day during training and without adding protein, it would be hard to get there on a normal diet.

(EF): What made you choose the career in PT?

(RF): I really wanted a career in the medical field where I was able to spend a lot of time working with people.  As a PT I get to do it on a daily basis.  It is also really rewarding to see people come in with problems that impact their life and be able to help them.

(EF): Best advice you’ve ever gotten for staying shape?

(RF): Always find a goal that you want to achieve and then tell everyone that goal.  It is a lot harder to quit when you know you will have to explain to people why you fell short and quit.

(EF): Advice for me in getting in shape?

(RF): Getting in shape is a slow process and can start anywhere and go anywhere.  Start slow even if it is walking for 20 minutes 3 days a week.  If you slowly increase that and add in running you will be running a 5k in no time.  Then you can increase to longer distances as you build up your fitness.  I am a good example I would have never guess I would do a half Ironman when I graduated High school, but I got there slowly over many years. Just stick to it and it will get better.

(EF): Hardest you’ve ever pushed yourself?

(RF): The last part of the half Ironman, I was dying.  The last 3 miles were not fun. The furthest I have run and biked is 13.1 miles and 56 miles respectfully.

(EF): Favorite triathlon?

(RF): I really like the Buffalo triathlon.  It is well run and just a good atmosphere, It’s probably why I have done it the last 3 years.

(EF): Why do you like Rugby?

(RF): It combines so many skills in to one sport.  You need endurance because it is constantly going.  You need strength to go up against some of those guys.  It also involves a lot of skill.  It is very physical, just like football, but you don’t have to deal with all those pads.  If you have to hide behind lots of pads to make a tackle or be tackled maybe you’re not as badass as you think you are.  The people I have played rugby with are always a good group of guys.  I have met a lot of my good friend through rugby.

(EF): Why do you like triathlons?

(RF): It keeps me in shape and gives me goals to achieve.  I am always looking to see how far I can push my body physically.  When I work out I get bored, if I do the same thing over and over.  This is true even when I race.  Triathlons give me the opportunity to always be doing something different with my workout.  Then, when I race, if I get bored I know a new leg is always right around the corner.  It makes you a more well-rounded athlete.

(EF): What is the coolest thing you’ve ever done?

(RF): I skied above the clouds in the Alps of Switzerland with 1 ½ feet of fresh powder.

(EF):Where is the coolest place you’ve ever been?

(RF): I loved Bahamas sailing from island to island for a week.  Every island was different and each reef had new things to explore.

(EF): If you won the lottery, what would you buy?

(RF): I would first pay off all of my loans and my sisters loans for school.   I would buy my parents their condo by the river.  Donate money to the Courage Center, the Eastside Banshees, and the UMN PT program.  Then I would so many toys, sports equipment, wave-runners, boats, most of the items at REI, ect….

(EF): I’m going to need you to start buying more lottery tickets. On what was your last splurge?

(RF): Being a Grad student really doesn’t allow me any money to splurge on anything.  I just bought new running shoes that weren’t cheap, but I really wanted them.

(EF): What’s something people would be surprised to learn about you?

(RF): I have been to over 30 different musicals.  I really do enjoy them and listen to the soundtracks when I run.  Most people don’t think I fit in to that stereotype.

(EF): What are things we can do on a daily basis to live a good life?

(RF): Enjoy the little things in life.  It is the little enjoyments that make it all worth it.  Also always look at situations from others point of view, it will make you a better person.

(EF): Do you have someone you look to for inspiration in your life?

It is cliché, but I look up to my parents.  They always work hard and are good people and that’s what I try to be.  Plus they are still standing after putting up with me for 27 years, so they are obviously very strong.

(EF): True dat. What activity makes you most happy?

(RF): I can honestly say that working out makes me happy.  I look forward to it and it gives me a sense of accomplishment.  If not that, then laying on the beach in the sunshine.

(EF): Who’s the funniest person in the world?

(RF): I am and if you don’t believe me then just ask me.

(EF): Who do you admire most in the area of sports?

(RF): I admire the little guys who were not given god-given talent, but worked really hard to get the professional level.  It makes me angry when people like them make it and people who are naturally talented just throw it all away.

(EF): In the area of design?

(RF): I am sorry Erika, but I can’t even give you a name.  Mr. Effle for his tower and the iron structure inside the statue of liberty.

(EF): Mr. Effle? He sounds fancy. What would your last meal be?

(RF): It would be ribs with and Oreo Blizzard.  My side items would be sweet potato fries and cheesy potatoes.

(EF): What would you tell the 18-year-old you?

(RF): I would just point out what is really important in life.  I think 18-year-old me had a very warped sense of what was important.  I didn’t really have a good plan of where I was going or what I needed to get there.

(EF): If you could give someone advice, what would it be?

(RF): Look for what really makes you happy and what you enjoy.  This is one aspect in your life where you need to be selfish.  If you pursue that then the rest will fall in to place.  Also, there are no short cuts or substitute for hard work.  If you really want something then it is worth working hard for it.


Energy Bites

I know you’re all thinking, “Where does she find the energy to sit in a cubicle at a low/mid-level job, run 13 minute miles, fix dinner for one and lead such an active hulu account?” Well, this week I’ve been experimenting with some energy friendly foods.

One thing I found that was really easy, delicious and gave me a bit of a boost, was these no bake “energy bites” from Smashed Peas and Carrots:

All you do is mix 1 cup oatmeal (I used Bob’s Gluten Free Oatmeal), 1/2 cup peanut butter, 1/3 cup honey (I used agave), 1 cup coconut flakes (which I don’t really care for but Logan likes), 1/2 cup ground flaxseed (apparently you find this near the spices), 1/2 cup mini chocolate chips (I threw in a little more) and tsp vanilla.
Then you chill the mixture for a half hour, roll into balls, and snack before work outs, as a morning pick me up, when you have a craving for chocolate, or because it’s there.
Peer review? I gave a couple of these to Joe and Logan as they were playing baseball on the X-Box. They both said they were good and tasted like “candy bars with a lot of fiber.” Within an hour of eating them, they were in the car, driving to the club to party until dawn. These bites are that good, or it was just a typical Friday.

Best Workout Music

You may remember that during my Positivity Project I emphasized music to lift my mood.  Well, music also has a significant affect your work-out. Music allows athletes to work harder and perform better, but not without perceiving the resulting increased level of exertion. Here’s what I’m listening to:

  • Make It Take It by Amanda Blank
  • Check It Out by Nicki Minaj & will.i.am
  • Pretty Girl Rock by Keri Hilson
  • Just Dance by Lady Gaga
  • Stand Up Tall by Basement Jaxx
  • Anti Matter by N.E.R.D.
  • Shake It to the Ground by DJ Blaqstarr featuring Rye Rye
  • Hottie Boombalottie by Kef
  • What About Your Friends by TLC
  • Get Up by Mary Mary
  • Boyz by M.I.A.

Project: Get Out

The project I’m currently working on is one where I exercise more. Did you know that when asked, people over-estimate how much they worked out the month before by 70%? I’ve been thinking about how we over-estimate the amount we work out and under-estimate how much we spend and eat. Does anyone remember what the psychological phenomenon is called?

Just like the food project, I’m not doing this to lose weight, in fact, you’re more likely to stick to a work-out routine if you aren’t doing it to lose weight. I’m doing it to boost energy and most of all, be happier. It’s literally night and day what I’m like after a week of frequent exercise and a week without. Besides giving me self-confidence and releasing feel good endorphins, it also gives me a sense of routine in my life so I don’t feel out of control. Plus, my brother tells me exercising prevents Alzheimers.

So, I will be

  • Running 4 times this week
  • Parking in spots farthest away
  • Putting on music to dance to
  • Taking the stairs (where there are any–it’s Florida)
  • Going for walks
  • Going to the gym 6 times a week

Carried over from past projects:

  • Being open to try new things
  • Letting go
  • Stay within my budget
  • Gluten-free diet.
  • More fresh veggies and fruits.
  • More hobbies and activities, less TV.
  • Avoid things that insult my soul
  • Keep a gratitude journal
  • Maintain a positive attitude
  • Be more charitable and generous
  • Put my friends/family first

Featured: Logan Maust


It really only makes sense that I wrap up this mini-project about pushing my own personal boundaries by interviewing the person in my life whose always pushing me to be more in the moment, try new things and lighten up. I’m not going to get too lovey-dovey about it, but I will note that Logan is truly the ying to my yang.

Me (EF): What is the coolest thing you’ve ever done?
Logan (LM): The first thing that came to mind was climbing with my little brother John in the southwest.  We drove out to a nice 300′ cliff with a guide and did some fun lead climbing.  Another cool thing that comes to mind is the trip to Savannah, GA with my college rugby team and the NDSU Lost Boys.  Driving to Florida with you was a crazy fun as well
(EF): Where is the coolest place you’ve ever been?
(LM): Prikolstal in the fjords of Norway.  It was a beautiful hike to the tallest vertical rock in the world.  It was massively enormous.
(EF): How do you stay stress free when you have me constantly worrying about everything?
(LM): I don’t really know how I stay stress free. It might start with a little immaturity. I like to joke around and smile a lot. When I am feeling stressed I take deep breaths, and that usually clears my head. That’s something my dad taught me to do when I was young.
(EF): What makes you stressed?
(LM): Looking for a job stresses me out.  School always seemed to put a lot of stress on me as well.  I guess these are probably normal things to be stressed about.
(EF): How do you stay in the moment?
(LM):  I guess I like to keep my schedule open and I try not to over plan things with many variable outcomes.  This could very well be a flaw of mine, since I am a procrastinator. I also believe if had more responsibility, I would not be so in the moment.
(EF)How do you cheer up people when they’re upset?
(LM): Upset people always seem to be able to be cheered up easily. Jokes work, babies smiling works, hugs work,  listening and being patient works very well too.
(EF): How do you cheer yourself up when you’re upset?
(LM): I like comedy, that usually pulls me out of any funk.  I also concentrate on my breathing as sort of a meditation, I guess.
(EF): If you won the lottery, what would you buy?
(LM): I don’t play the lottery, my family advised against it.
(EF): Where will you be in 10 years?
(LM): We made a big move this year and I’m having fun, but I don’t expect this to be the last chapter of our life. I do have a few long-term goals, but not 10 years down the line quite yet. One of the things on my list is to finish school. I plan on living in Florida for a couple more years (if you don’t mind much) and finish school at these cheap Florida colleges. After I graduate I would like to work around money. I have always had a fascination with statistics, whether it be sports or financial stats. I woud like to make some man money, not little boy money. I want to make some difference in the community. When I graduate I’ll have many more options so, that is why I don’t have a complete answer.
(EF): What was your last splurge on?
(LM): I guess our recent mini vacation to Miami to pick up Juan.
(EF): What’s something people would be surprised to learn about you?
(LM): I’m fairly clever in the wood shop.
(EF): What are things we can do on a daily basis to live a good life?
(LM): Laugh
(EF): Do you have someone you look to for inspiration in your life?
(LM): My parents.  My dad has given me some good words of advise.  My mom is patient and very caring.
(EF): What activity makes you most happy?
(LM): Lately its been being at the beach and ocean. It can be exciting and tranquil simultaneously.
(EF): Who do you admire most in the area of music?
(LM): It was Tupac back in the day.  More recently its been K’naan, a dusty foot philosopher who move to Toronto from Mogadishu,  he writes with great poetry and paints great pictures with his rhymes.
(EF): In the area of sports?
(LM): Adrian Peterson.
(EF): In the area of design?
(LM): My dad, or Frank Loyd Wright. They’re really the only people I know in design.
(EF): What would your last meal be?
(LM): I like Prime Rib
(EF): Where do you want to be right now?
(LM): Where I am. If I could change one thing it would be where my minnesota people are located.
(EF): What would you tell the 18 year old you?
(LM): Do your best (thank you Boy Scouts of America).
(EF): If you could give someone advice, what would it be?
(LM): It would be to live life lovingly and patiently.

Magazines

Some things I learned from 2 magazines I’ve never thought of reading before:

Popular Science:

  • We get goose bumps when we’re scared for the same reason cats fluff up when they feel threatened, to look as big as possible.
  • What I should get a few people for Christmas
  • You can use an iPad to create professional photography lighting
  • The Harvard guys behind OkCupid have been documenting trends on their OkTrends blog. One of the things they found was that women with pictures with conversation starters got more first-contact messages than ones with cleavage.

The Oprah Magazine:

  • The next book I will be reading is Mrs. Nixon by Ann Beattie
  • My passions are: planning things creatively, reading, exploring new places/traveling, horseback riding, music
  • I’m motivated by social factors and should choose a job that keeps me around others collaborating.
  • I need to treat my neck the same way I treat my face (moisturizer and sunscreen). Otherwise I’ll end up wearing turtlenecks constantly like Dianne Keaton when I’m older. I added that last part, not Oprah.
  • A nice thing you can do is tie a message—”It’s going to be okay!” to a pumpkin, and leave it in a public place.